Women over 40

Wrenches in the Trenches

Wrenches in the Trenches are not your average, every day kind of hiccups in life.  It’s when you’re on a streak of them that they become wrenches in the trenches.  The last couple weeks of mine have been definite wrenches in the trenches and it’s not ready to stop just yet.  I’m going to share some of this with you only as example, not to be hugely negative.  (I promise to end on a positive note!)

My Wrenches This Last Week

My husband and I own a business and while I’ve stepped mostly away to build up Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, I’m still pretty involved.  Nothing at that business happens at a convenient time.  For example, let’s have our production manager quit without notice and then all of a sudden all of our clients need their orders yesterday.  Then two days later your part-timer calls in sick and the day after that your other one does as well.  Because this business pays ALL of our bills right now, that means that not only do my husband and I drop everything to keep it going, but my daughter as well.  Talk about a family business!  And it hasn’t stopped.

My daughter has finished high school, finished a vocational school and only has two mock state board finals to complete before graduating and then taking the state boards on April 3rd.  She called the school admin and set up two dates, but that admin didn’t tell the other admin and her dates got taken.  Even though we had set up everything with everyone to be there so now we are scrambling to get her a new model (thermolysis – permanent hair removal – have to bring your own model) on the only two dates they have left and one is the day before state boards meaning that if she doesn’t pass, can’t take state boards.

And then there’s the rain.  I love rain!  But not when it has the possibility of bringing flash floods to recent burn areas or cancels our mountain bike race for the weekend for our local high school mountain bike team and we are scrambling for practices or possible spin classes.  That also means canceling hotels, changing plans, re-booking hotels for the next race, etc.  I got most of my money back, but others refused a refund.

Last one…then there’s my dumb thyroid and the needle biopsy that hurt like the dickens and bruised my neck only to have the results come back inconclusive and being sent out for genetic testing that will take weeks to get those results.  Not freaking out, but definitely a wrench psychologically to have to wait.

Combatting the Wrenches

When life throws more than little hiccups your direction and there seems to be a steady stream, those are your wrenches in the trenches moments.  Here’s what I do to combat feeling despair during these crazy life wrenches:

  1. I do the best I can.  I make a list and that list is filled with more stuff than I could ever accomplish in a day and I know it.  I then write the numbers 1-3 of the things that are the most important and I start there.  If I finish those three, I make another priority of the next 3.  And then I let it go.  Oh, I’ll get stressed, but I try to do my best and let the rest go.
  2. I find at least one thing to be grateful for daily.  There is something in every day and I write mine in a 5-year journal I keep at my bedside every night.  Focusing on something good, writing down, and then I get bonus points if I share it with my hubby cause talking about that good thing makes me happy.
  3. Look for the silver lining or the lesson learned.  I truly believe that things happen for a reason.  While our business is still struggling to get caught up, we are grateful to have hired a wonderful new production manager and am embracing the fact that we have lots of work to do which brings us monetary blessings like paying for our mortgage and eating.  Kinda important things, right?  My daughter was able to find a model for tomorrow and I firmly believe there’s a reason why her schedule got re-arranged.  Maybe in finding the new model she’ll meet someone new.  Maybe it will be good to do a mock final the day before her state boards so it will be fresh in her memory.  I can’t always immediately see the blessing, but I’m on the look out for it!  And the rain with the races?  Turns out I only lost $6.84 cents for my hotel.  I won’t be attending the re-scheduled race because my oldest daughter and my two grandbabies are coming for a visit and that fact alone will save me 6 hours of driving.  That’s a blessing!  I’m praying that we will not have flash floods, but I am grateful for the much-needed rain in California.
  4. Last, but certainly not least.  If all else fails, give up.  Oh, I don’t mean permanently, but sometimes you need to just set everything aside, grab your favorite food and chick flick and zone out.  Those problems aren’t going anywhere.  Tell them all to take a time-out, re-group yourself and come at it fresh tomorrow.

Wrenches in the Trenches are inevitable, but they do pass.  If you’re in one now, I feel ya.  The struggle is real.  Take heart, this too shall pass.

Please leave your comments below on this article.  I would love to hear from you!

Episode 000-The Podcast

Lauri’s Lemonade Stand
A Positivity Podcast for Women


Hello, Lemonaders!  My name is Lauri Mackey and I created Lauri’s Lemonade Stand to help women over 40 either enhance who we already are or if needed, to start from scratch to re-create ourselves and figure out who we want to be when we grow up.  To do this, we need inspiration from others who have gone before us or who are living that reality right now.  Most of the positivity podcast is interview-based so that we can hear others stories of hope and empowerment.  To hear from others who have hit rock bottom and found the only way to go was or is up.  As Stephanie McKenzie stated in her podcast episode 017, we are here to help those who haven’t reached where we are yet and also look forward to those who have already been where we are now.  Here is a good example of what I’m talking about:
During my very first interview, 001 Rebecca Rusch, who is a multi-world champion mountain biker, author, speaker and all around bad-ass that I admire discussed how more women were getting into mountain-biking, but that the the sport is mostly male-dominated.  Basically, we ride with guys more than we do gals.  We talked about how we can watch a guy take some technical section, make it look easy, but that we still may be reluctant or hesitant to try it ourselves.  Then we get our gal friend, like Lindsey Voreis on episode 003 who is also an awesome mountain biker and teaches other women confidence throught this amazing sport take the same technical section and it gives us the courage and strength to try it ourselves.  In other words, as women, we need each other!
We need each other to create courage, give each other strength, build each other up and create contagious energy to do and be better.  To take our “sucking lemons” moments and turn them into sweet lemonade.
Some of the other podcasts, while still interview-based are just fun, like episode 012 where Irene Thomas teaches us how to Geocache or Jo Ellen Soesbee who is the Tool Box Tom Girl in episode 004 who will inspire you to pick up those tools and do it yourself before ever making a phone call to the handyman.
Another fun part of every episode are the Lemonade Moments I ask at the end of every interview to my guests.  Because I am constantly putting them on the hot seat, I thought I should also have to answer these questions myself so here goes:
Question #1 – Name one activity you do every day without fail?  Well, the obvious answer was brush and floss my teeth, but my official answer is reading my scriptures, writing in my journal and saying a prayer to do good that day.  Question #2 – Favorite Guilty Pleasure Food?  French Fries from Veggie Grill!!  Not the kind you get at fast food joints, the thick, covered in fun seasoning kind of fries.  I would say the runner up to that would be the banana chocolate peanut butter vegan soft-serve my dear hubby makes for me when I have a sweet tooth.  Did I mention I was vegan?  Question #3 – Biggest Pet Peeve?  The buttons at crosswalks!!  Seriously, do you ever see those people standing there hitting that button a thousand times until they get the light?  It doesn’t matter if you push it once or a hundred times…the light is going to change at the same time.  Somewhere along the line someone told someone else that the more times you push it the more people it thinks is standing there so it will change faster.  Big lie!  It doesn’t think at all, hello!  It will change just as fast for the one as for the dozen.  Yep…feel a little passionate about that one!  Haha!  Question #4 – Favorite Quote I’m loving right now.  Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you learn to do it well by Zig Ziglar.  Hence this podcast!  Or writing a blog, or learning a new skill on a bike.  You have to start somewhere…the most important thing to do is to start!
Question #5 and the last one – What’s the biggest thing I’ve accomplished since turning 40.  Graduating high school for sure!  It was seriously one of the hardest things I did as an adult!  You can check out episode 013 to get the full scoop but let me just say that it’s way harder as an adult to graduate than as a teenager.  Tell your teenagers to stay in school!!
What are some of the other things I’ve accomplished since turning 40?  After graduating high school, becoming a certified Starchivore, earning a certificate in plant-based nutrition through eCornell University, becoming a Certified health coach through The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, establishing Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Blog/Podcast/Website/Facebook page, becoming an Inspirational Speaker with training from YSU and Lisa Nichols Motivating the Masses, earning my Young Women’s medallion through the Personal Progress program, racing mountain bikes and becoming a mountain bike coach to our local high school team. Seriously, ladies…if I can do it…anyone can!
What are my next goals?  To write a book!  I have been taking all sorts of courses and researching what it takes to write a book.  How to publish traditionally or self-publish, what to write about that will make the most difference in helping other women accomplish their goals.  Just to hold myself accountable, I’m setting a date to release a book by Christmas 2017.  That gives me just over a year to get it written and sorted out.  A noble goal and I can’t wait to share it with all of you!
Ladies, this positivity podcast for women was created out of love to offer support in your journey.  Wherever you are, you are right where you are supposed to be.  I’m betting that if you have 45 minutes per week to listen while you’re driving, working out, or just hanging at home you will feel the love and inspiration of these wonderful women.  That you won’t feel so alone in your journey.  That you will feel empowered to do and be whatever your little heart desires.
If you need daily doses of positivity – checkout my Facebook Page called Lauri’s Lemonade Stand.  
For weekly doses of positivity – you can check out my blog at laurislemonadestand.blogspot.com.  
And for the best lemonade recipe ever, check out my website at laurislemonadestand.com.  If you subscribe to my email list and I sure hope you do, you will also get “Eddy’s 60 Days of Sunshine” pdf for FREE to help create positive, lemonade moments in the life of someone you love who may be feeling down.

Looking forward to sharing this podcast journey with you and wishing you all the best in whatever you are pursuing right now.  I would love to hear from you so please, pretty please chime in in the rate and review of this podcast and subscribe because iTunes will make sure it gets out there to more women of our tribe and don’t forget to hit “like” on Facebook!  Love to you all, My Lemonaders in Training!  Enjoy the show and thank you for listening!

Random Blog Day

     Random Blog Day 

     As I write this blog, I’ve realized how much I enjoy podcasting!  Every week I Skype my mentor buddies, Elizabeth and Laurence and we talk about our life struggles, where our podcasts are and where we want them to go and encourage each other to do and be more.  Each of us have different struggles on our journey which means that the solutions vary as much as the struggles themselves do.

     I completely enjoy writing, but something about listening and connecting to someone in person over a podcast is so much more moving.  I love the written word and can’t keep my nose out of a book, but I’ve decided to take my blog to random status.  It will no longer be a weekly blog (unlike my podcast that comes out every single Monday without fail!), but to a “so inspired have to write this to everyone” status of randomness.

     I am appreciating all of your responses and feedback to everything I’m trying to accomplish by bringing positivity into the lives of women!  Keep it coming!  You can catch me on iTunes every week by clicking here:  Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Positivity Podcast for Women or on Facebook by clicking here:  Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Facebook Positivity or simply visiting me on my website by clicking here:  http://www.laurislemonadestand.com/

Thank you for your love and dedication!  
Wishing you the best in positivity today and all the days ahead!
Scroll to top