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Episode 089 – Marnie Nir

Listen to my episode, HERE!

Humor, compassion and candor led Marnie into the world of Love and Life Coaching for the Handel Group Life Coaching, where she is continually inspired by the importance of telling the truth, all the time. She’s a hilarious and accomplished TV comedy writer, partnering with Eva Longoria on Marnie’s original animated Hulu series “Mother Up.”

Marnie teaches us how to build our own muscle of personal integrity, to help us transform our relationships. Her Workshops and Circles are not for the faint of heart; she pushes us to start taking some responsibility for our sh*t. (Oh, and Marnie’s potty mouth has earned her an “R” rating; don’t say I didn’t warn!)

Having been married for more than 18 years, Marnie particularly enjoys working with wives, mothers and singles, because she is well-acquainted with the challenges they face and speaks b*#ch, martyr and chicken fluently. Marnie offers her clients the tools they need to author the lives they want, with wit, sincerity and her occasional truck-driver mouth. She lives in Pound Ridge, NY with her husband and two children.

EP-076 Sadie Nardini

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Sadie Nardini is the founder of Core Strength Vinyasa Yoga, an anatomy-enriched flow style, and the Yoga Shred™, a cross-training blend of yoga and High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) with fresh new moves based on safer alignment. She fronts a rock band, Sadie & The Tribe, and is based in Santa Barbara, California.

Website:  sadienardini.com

Instagram:  @SadieNardiniOfficial

Practice and get motivated with Sadie on Facebook: @SadieNardiniOfficial

Wrenches in the Trenches

Wrenches in the Trenches are not your average, every day kind of hiccups in life.  It’s when you’re on a streak of them that they become wrenches in the trenches.  The last couple weeks of mine have been definite wrenches in the trenches and it’s not ready to stop just yet.  I’m going to share some of this with you only as example, not to be hugely negative.  (I promise to end on a positive note!)

My Wrenches This Last Week

My husband and I own a business and while I’ve stepped mostly away to build up Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, I’m still pretty involved.  Nothing at that business happens at a convenient time.  For example, let’s have our production manager quit without notice and then all of a sudden all of our clients need their orders yesterday.  Then two days later your part-timer calls in sick and the day after that your other one does as well.  Because this business pays ALL of our bills right now, that means that not only do my husband and I drop everything to keep it going, but my daughter as well.  Talk about a family business!  And it hasn’t stopped.

My daughter has finished high school, finished a vocational school and only has two mock state board finals to complete before graduating and then taking the state boards on April 3rd.  She called the school admin and set up two dates, but that admin didn’t tell the other admin and her dates got taken.  Even though we had set up everything with everyone to be there so now we are scrambling to get her a new model (thermolysis – permanent hair removal – have to bring your own model) on the only two dates they have left and one is the day before state boards meaning that if she doesn’t pass, can’t take state boards.

And then there’s the rain.  I love rain!  But not when it has the possibility of bringing flash floods to recent burn areas or cancels our mountain bike race for the weekend for our local high school mountain bike team and we are scrambling for practices or possible spin classes.  That also means canceling hotels, changing plans, re-booking hotels for the next race, etc.  I got most of my money back, but others refused a refund.

Last one…then there’s my dumb thyroid and the needle biopsy that hurt like the dickens and bruised my neck only to have the results come back inconclusive and being sent out for genetic testing that will take weeks to get those results.  Not freaking out, but definitely a wrench psychologically to have to wait.

Combatting the Wrenches

When life throws more than little hiccups your direction and there seems to be a steady stream, those are your wrenches in the trenches moments.  Here’s what I do to combat feeling despair during these crazy life wrenches:

  1. I do the best I can.  I make a list and that list is filled with more stuff than I could ever accomplish in a day and I know it.  I then write the numbers 1-3 of the things that are the most important and I start there.  If I finish those three, I make another priority of the next 3.  And then I let it go.  Oh, I’ll get stressed, but I try to do my best and let the rest go.
  2. I find at least one thing to be grateful for daily.  There is something in every day and I write mine in a 5-year journal I keep at my bedside every night.  Focusing on something good, writing down, and then I get bonus points if I share it with my hubby cause talking about that good thing makes me happy.
  3. Look for the silver lining or the lesson learned.  I truly believe that things happen for a reason.  While our business is still struggling to get caught up, we are grateful to have hired a wonderful new production manager and am embracing the fact that we have lots of work to do which brings us monetary blessings like paying for our mortgage and eating.  Kinda important things, right?  My daughter was able to find a model for tomorrow and I firmly believe there’s a reason why her schedule got re-arranged.  Maybe in finding the new model she’ll meet someone new.  Maybe it will be good to do a mock final the day before her state boards so it will be fresh in her memory.  I can’t always immediately see the blessing, but I’m on the look out for it!  And the rain with the races?  Turns out I only lost $6.84 cents for my hotel.  I won’t be attending the re-scheduled race because my oldest daughter and my two grandbabies are coming for a visit and that fact alone will save me 6 hours of driving.  That’s a blessing!  I’m praying that we will not have flash floods, but I am grateful for the much-needed rain in California.
  4. Last, but certainly not least.  If all else fails, give up.  Oh, I don’t mean permanently, but sometimes you need to just set everything aside, grab your favorite food and chick flick and zone out.  Those problems aren’t going anywhere.  Tell them all to take a time-out, re-group yourself and come at it fresh tomorrow.

Wrenches in the Trenches are inevitable, but they do pass.  If you’re in one now, I feel ya.  The struggle is real.  Take heart, this too shall pass.

Please leave your comments below on this article.  I would love to hear from you!

International Women’s Day Part 2

International Women’s Day Part 2!
At Lauri’s Lemonade Stand we Celebrate Women Every Day!

As I mentioned last week, I wanted to share with you the brave women who were guests this past year on my podcast.  Last week, we celebrated the first ten and this week we celebrate episodes 11-20!  There is a little blurb about each one below and the link to their individual podcast should you want to learn more.  Have fun as I did learning from these amazing, incredible women and then tune in next week for episodes 21-30.  Thank you for being a part of this movement to support and uplift other women!

Ed Mackey – Ok, so I said women and then episode #011 is actually a man!  My husband in fact.  If you go to my website and sign up for my email list you get what I have lovingly dubbed “Eddy’s 60 Days of Sunshine”  which is a download for you to use as a tool to help someone you know who is going through a hard time, mild depression, or general sadness.  It is a way to use a network of family and friends and peers to support someone in their time of need.  Listen to this episode to learn the why and how I came up with this idea in supporting my husband when I didn’t know what else to do.

Irene Thomas – This is just a fun and uplifting episode #012 that teaches us how to Geocache!  Have you tried geocaching yet?  It is something you can do by yourself or with friends…on a trip across the world or the country or even in your own backyard.  Try it, you’ll like it!

Lauri Mackey – This is your 3-Step Guide to accomplishing your next goal with incredible passion!  I share with you my journey to finishing high school after age 40 and the power that ignited in myself to do and be more…I felt like Wonder Woman and that I could do anything!  It is part of the reason I started this podcast to help women over 40 in accomplishing whatever their little hearts desire.  Listen, then use the tools to accomplish your next goal!

Rhonda Waidmann – The respect you’ll find for Rhonda Waidmann lies at the other end of this podcast interview.  Sometimes you think you know someone from the outside looking in, but then you delve deeper and find a hero.  Heroes are found in everyday life and in everyday circumstances.  Rhonda has endured much, but has also fought for much and is still fighting to help others to this day.  Enjoy this down to earth interview and get inspired to create positive change with a smile in your neck of the woods!

Rachel Call – Rachel Call cannot be shocked by anything she hears which means she is the least judgmental person I know.  She would never admit it, but she is truly a gift to the hearts and spirits of those she touches in their lives.  Embrace this powerful, passionate podcast and reach out to her if you would like to have her touch your life as she as touched mine.  Don’t forget to check out the two books she recommends in Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten and Happiness is a Choice by Barry Neil Kaufman.  

Linda Middlesworth – is a force to be reckoned with.  She will convince you to try a vegan diet with the utmost compassion and concern not only for the animals, but truly for you.  She has seen the worst of what the Standard American Diet (SAD) can do to you having personally experienced it.  She is 72 years old, voted Sexiest Vegan in the World by PETA in 2015, created V-Dog with her late husband, and teaches numerous fitness classes daily along with being a Food for Life Instructor through the PCRM.  Remember I told you she was a force to be reckoned with?  Check out this podcast and see what you can do to find your voice with purpose and passion!

Stephanie MacKenzie – Female Entrepreneurs!  You need to hear this interview!  Stephanie MacKenzie’s interview was done while I was vacationing in Oregon!  Love that I can take this business anywhere!  While there is definitely a few glitches, you do not want to miss this incredible interview about taking your ideas and passions and turning them into income for you and your family.  Stephanie is living proof that it can be done!  Take the leap and join the movement!

Brenda Davis, RD – went vegan when vegan wasn’t popular in society or in her field of practice.  There was fear involved in remaining a registered dietitian, but because she overcame her fear she is now looked up to in her field winning awards, speaking, publishing books and creating change in the Marshall Islands, you can’t help but be caught up to action in your part of the world.  Become part of the grass roots efforts to be kind to yourself, others, and animals in this inspiring episode!

Jane Birch – Her book Discovering The Word of Wisdom has been an inspiration for my Facebook page called VeganMormon.  More than that, and before that, she was simply an inspiration for me in following my journey of a Whole Food, Plant-Based nutrition lifestyle.  in this episode we get down and dirty about our food practice, religious practice and our belief in God.  Hold on tight as we, as two women, connect, consult, and embrace this way of life.  Jane’s journey is amazing and brave, enjoy this amazing episode!

Susan Pierce Thompson, PhD – Susan is a Warrior fighting for nothing short of world domination.  Following her tribe in the Bright Line Eating community promises you three things:  Happiness, Thinness, and Freedom.  You are going to LOVE what she has to offer by way of being Happy, Thin, and Free, but you’re also going to just LOVE Susan.  Nothing short of a miracle in surviving her own journey, she has lost 60 pounds (and kept it off for over 13 years!) and conquered drug addiction, and has a plan to share how she did it with the world.  Join this journey!  

See you next week for episodes 21-30!  Don’t forget to comment below and let me know your thoughts on the blog and who you would like to see on future podcast episodes!

Being Assertive

Being Assertive
Take-aways from Dr. Julie Hanks latest book:
The Assertiveness Guide for Women

Dr. Julie Hanks has created a gold mine of information about being assertive. But let me warn you, this is a WORK BOOK!! If you aren’t ready to put in the work to learning more about yourself, don’t buy this book. However, if you are ready to take the steps necessary to learning this trade of being assertive I would highly recommend it.

Let’s just do a quick re-assess of what being assertive means, shall we? My initial impression was not the definition that Dr. Julie Hanks used. “Assertiveness is generally defined as a way of communicating that is clear, confident, and self-assured. It enables you to express your thoughts, feelings, needs, and wants without infringing on the rights of others. Assertiveness skills help you articulate your unique sense of self while maintaining your connection with others and allowing them to have an experience that is different from yours. At its core, assertiveness is about the courage to express difference.”

Now THAT is a great definition of being assertive and from the moment I read it, I wanted it. I generally consider myself a pretty assertive person, but there is one area where I get hung up and that is my emotional response during conflict. In her book, Dr. Hanks gives 5 Skills of Assertiveness; Self-Reflection, Self-Awareness, Self-Soothing, Self-Expression, and Self-Expansion. My biggest insight came from the self-soothing portion as it provided tools to pretty much calm myself down during any conflict.

“Assertiveness is an expression of difference.” In this book I found it re-assuring that we need each other and our relationships. “Splendid isolation is for planets, not people” (Johnson 2013). This book shows you how to make the most out of your relationships by nurturing certain ones and possibly severing others.

My blogpost today is not to give you the full enchilada, but to entice you to go out and buy this book if you find that it might help you in your life. It made a difference in mind and I will share just a few of my key take-aways here:

I feel _____________ when you _______________ because I think ______________.

This sentence alone can change your life.

Phrases to have up my sleeve or in my back pocket when I need to say no:

“I’m not able to commit to that right now.”

“I’m going to say no for now. I’ll let you know if something changes.”

“No, I can’t do that, but here’s what I can do…”

Phrases to help me ask for change:

“It would mean a lot to me if…”

“I would appreciate it if you would…”

I loved it when you did _______________.”

If you’re not yet sold on the book, start by listening to my interview with Dr. Julie Hanks on my positivity podcast for women, Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, by clicking here. Listen as she takes me through a real life scenario that happened to me with my family and shows me how I could have handled it differently…talk about putting yourself out there for the world to hear! She is funny, brilliant, and right on the money.

Don’t forget to leave your comments below…I read every one!

Goal Posts 4 of 4 for 2017

 

Accountability

Hello, Lemonader’s!  

This is the last post of my Goal Post Series for January.  I’ve liked having a theme forthe month.  Do you?  If so, let me know in the comments so I can plan more themed parties for us!

The last piece of the puzzle is Accountability.  This is a new one for me this year, but I have so many goals that I wanted to report to someone so my goals wouldn’t get lost in the melee of my big, beautiful life.  At the end of my list of Promises for 2017 I added one more new category:  Giddy-Up Goal Celebrations.

I wanted to be able to celebrate all of my small wins and be encouraged in my journey.  I ended up with 4 accountabilities (of course, you can have as many or as little as you like!).  I have a Podcast Accountability group with two other awesome women that keep me on track with my podcasting goals.  We meet via Skype every Tuesday.  I have a Book-Writing Accountability team member who we simply email each other every Wednesday on our progress and encourage each other.  I have a Speech accountability that I do every Thursday with guess who?  Myself!  I was challenged by one of my podcast guests, Whitney Johnson to do 10 FREE Speeches during 2017 and I am sending pitches out to whomever will listen to get my message out there.  And last, but definitely not least, I “hired” my best friend, Lizzie to check in with me monthly and then quarterly on my entire goal list.

And guess what?  She is making me a gold star chart!  How cool is that?  She is most definitely a mom and wanted to make some sort of chart to show my progress and we giggled about gold stars, but then thought…why the heck not?  It will be fun and you can bet I’ll be fighting for each of those earned gold stars!!

Goals are great.  Goals written down are in a much higher percentile to actually happen and get accomplished.  Goals that you have to report back to someone??  Over 90%, baby!  I’m adding this element to rock my Promises for 2017!

And there you have it…4 blog posts on Dreaming Big, Reflection, Bite-Size Chunks, and Accountability.  Now get out there and get ‘er done!  I believe in you!

Goal Posts 3 of 4 for 2017

  • Bite Size Chunks
    • Now that you’ve Dreamed Big and had some time to Reflect, it’s time to set your actual goals for 2017.  This year I decided I wanted to make my goals more fun instead of stodgy.  I changed my goal title from Lauri’s Goals 2017 to Lauri’s Promises 2017.  I changed the Relationships category to Family Focus, Physical to Physical Well-being and Playtime, Financial to Abundant Wealth Prowess, Education to Cultivating Enlightenment, Spiritual to Soul Solutions.  I even added two new categories this year:  Creativity and my favorite?  Recess!
    • Not only am a adding in more fun this year, but I have two pages of promises and this might help you, too.  One set is a Promises Summary where it states my goals.  The second set (and this is where the bite-size chunks come in) breaks down those promises into actual action steps.  How will I accomplish my goals?  Let me share one with you so you get the idea.
    • Under my Recess Category I have a goal for a Weekly Date with guess who?  Me!  One my first set of Promises where it is a summary, it simply says, Weekly Dates with Myself.  On the second set I have it broken out to say that not only will I have a weekly date with myself, but I will alternate each week from an evening to a daytime date.  I have ideas written of a few dates I’ve done in the past and enjoyed and some I think might be fun.  Not all of my dates have been a hit, by the way.  Some felt as a downright waste of my time by the end, but consistency keeps me moving forward in the right direction so that I keep taking time for myself.  Last week I simply set a date to pull out all of my stamp collection, see how much they were worth right now and make a list of a couple of collections I’d like to complete and added it to my wishlist for friends and family for my birthday and Christmas (yes, I’m the OCD one when it comes to list and preparation…I always have a wishlist going! You should to!)
    • That means that now is time for the action step for you.  You’ve Dreamt Big, you’ve Reflected on past years goals that have and haven’t worked for you and where you are now.  You are ready to make your Promises, but more importantly, ready to break them down into “Bite-Size Chunks” so that you can actually see yourself accomplishing your goals.
    • Next week?  The last piece of the puzzle to help you accomplish your goals or promises in 2017 – Accountability.  I’ll tell you that I’ve never taken this step before until this year and what I’ve done to make it happen for me.
    • Please leave a comment below and share one of your promises for 2017.  I love hearing from you!

Goal Posts 2 of 4 for 2017

  • Reflections
    • One of the funnest things I did before actually writing my goals down for 2017 was reflect on my past years of goal-setting.  I have been printing out and posting on my bulletin board my yearly goals since 2010.  I kept them in a tidy little file folder tucked away in one of my office drawers and hadn’t thought much about them other than to put the old ones in at the end of each year.  Not this time.
    • It was so great to reflect on some of my goals and what I was into at that particular time.  How my physical goals have changed from running a half marathon and now I’m racing mountain bikes.  Saving for Boobs had been on my list, but 2 years later decided they would be a “BIG” pain and get in the way of my physical fitness goals.  How many classes I wanted to finish to gain my high school diploma and how that goal came true in it’s entirety in 2012 when I graduated!
    • From knitting a blanket (yes, it’s still on there after three years) to completing a Shutterfly book.  From spiritual goals that were met to eating right.  It has been wonderful to reflect and introspect and ruminate over goals accomplished, goals that turned out not as important as I had thought in the moment and just how I’ve grown over the last 6 years navigating my 40’s.  A crazy, mixed-up, wonderful, growth of a ride for sure.
    • What are some goals that were important to you at the time, but turned out less important as years passed?
    • What did you spend time on and wished you hadn’t?  Now vice versa…wish you had spent more time on, but didn’t?
    • Accomplished any bucket list items lately?  Can you add one this year?
    • Are your goals attainable in this year?
    • Now that you’ve Dreamed Big, and done a little Reflection, tune in next week to figure out how you can attain those goals by putting them into Bite-Size Chunks.
    • Don’t forget to leave a comment and let me know all about your goals and how your reflection of past goals have been for you.  Love hearing from you!

Goal Posts 1 of 4 for 2017

  • Dream Big
    • This month’s Wednesday Blogs will be focused on setting goals or what I have termed “Promises”.  This year I decided to shake things up a bit and use different description words and generally make my goals a lot more FUN!  I wanted to use my creativity and playfulness – we can sometimes be so stodgy, strict, and stick-in-the-muddy when it comes to making our serious goals.  Why?
    • I decided that while I am serious about reaching my goals there wasn’t a reason on earth not to make them fun, playful, creative and attractive.  The Four Blogs will be entitled Dream Big, Reflections, Bite Size Chunks, and Accountability.
    • For today, let’s focus on DREAMING BIG.  How would you complete the following sentences?
    • If money were not an option, I would___________________________________.
    • If I could set my fear aside, I would____________________________________.
    • My dream job would be_____________________________________________.
    • If I had extra money to donate to any philanthropic organization I would pick____________________________________________________________.
    • 3 Things I would add to my bucket list__________________________________.
    • 3 Movies I’ve always wanted to see but haven’t taken the time are____________.
    • If I had an entire day to myself I would spend it doing______________________.
    • If I had more time to workout I would do________________________________.
    • My Secret Destination Dream vacation would be__________________________.
    • Something purely fun I want to learn___________________________________.
    • I want to retire at age_______________________________________________.
    • If I wrote a book it would be titled______________________________________.
    • 2 Projects I’ve put off for entirely too long_______________________________.
    • 1 House Project that I would love to finish this year_________________________.
    • You get the idea here, right?  Allow yourself to dream big.  The goal of this exercise isn’t to necessarily see them ALL happen in 2017, but to realize or work on them this year.  Is Paris your dream vacation?  Start a savings account specifically for that purpose, play a French film with subtitles while eating a crescent to keep your dream alive.  Have a nagging house project?  Write down what it would take to accomplish that goal.  For example, last year I wanted to get new carpet upstairs so long before that became a reality I started saving for the carpet, picked out the carpet and pad as well as got quotes for installation.  Want to donate to a philanthropic organization but don’t have the money you would really like to donate?  So what!  They appreciate all donations.  I donate $10/month to PCRM and this year my husband picked 4 different charities he wanted to support at $5/month each.  Do something…not nothing.
    • And just as a side note…I do have on my promises list for something purely fun.  My hubby and I are going to learn to pop wheelies on our mountain bikes!  Yes!
    • After filling out your DREAMING BIG categories, it’s time to make them fun.  Please tune in next Wednesday for the Reflections topic where I look at my goals that I started printing out in 2010 and how this year I changed them from stodgy to playful.
    • If this was helpful, please leave a comment below as I would love to hear from you!
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